They both chose to buy only the best for their families while they drove whatever is available. Jay drove a beat up pickup (jalopy) while I drove a new van. Jeremy has a tendancy to do the same.
I then began to think of all the similarities father and son have. Jay loved to buy new and expensive clothes for me but when it came to him it was impossible for him to spend money on himself. If he found something he wanted, he would watch it for weeks. He would say, "They don't want to sell it to me today." Even if the price was slightly reduced he would watch it until it became rock bottom priced before he would buy it. I would say, "buy it now because it may be gone when you return to the store." He would reply, "if it is gone, then it wasn't meant for me." I have noticed that Jeremy loves to buy new things for his family, but seldom buys for himself just like his dad.
Neither Jay nor Jeremy are disciplinarians. I always had to do the discipline in our family. Jay spanked Jeremy once, but it reminded him so much of how his father had been so unmerciful with him. Jay cried and told me if Jeremy needed spanking I would have to do it because he didn't want to be like his father. Jeremy is just as lenient and tender hearted as his father.
Birthdays, holidays, mother's day or any other chance he had, Jay would go all out to make it special for me. I have a lot of jewelry pieces because they were his favorite types of gifts. But when I would try and make his birthdays and special days festive he would say, "oh, don't trouble yourself for me." Jeremy is the same way with doing for his loved ones, but never expecting them to return the favor.
This type of men is very hard to find these days....men who give and give and never want anything for themselves. Thank you God for my two men. They were and are precious and special. I was and am blessed to love them.